I Deserve the King of Wakanda

Hey loves, it’s Videllia. Your favorite relationship and motivational blogger and I’m back with another blog post called “I Deserve the King of Wakanda” and so do you.  You can listen to the podcast below or keep scrolling to read the full post.


Full Post:


I love the movie Black Panther. I saw it 3 times in theaters, once on an airplane and plan to buy the DVD lol. What I loved outside of the amazing storyline, great acting and eye candy was the way T’Challa treated the women in the movie, specifically Nakia.

For those that don’t know, in the storyline Nakia can be seen pursuing her own dreams of saving people while T’challa pursues her. Not only does he pursue her but he protects her. Not only does he protect her but he wants to provide for her. Not only does he provide for her but you can see how he loves and cherishes her. How he respects and admires her dreams and her vision for the world. Not only does he cherish her but you can see he makes her aware of his intentions. He hints at her being the Queen in Wakanda and to me their love relationship was so cute.


While it is fictional of course being based on fictional characters it really got me to thinking – I deserve the King of Wakanda. I deserve a T’challa. No not in the sense of I need a man to be able to transform into some amazing super hero and kick butt all across the world but in the sense of everything he stood for.

I deserve a man who pursues me.

I deserve a man who protects me.

I deserve a man who wants to provide for me (as I want to provide for him).

I deserve a man who loves and cherishes me, who respects and admires me and my dreams. Who will support me in my dreams and figure out ways to help me pursue those things just as T’Challa supported Nakia.

I deserve a man who makes his intentions known – who let’s me know that I’m the one he wants and the one he wants to be with.

And sis, I’m here to tell you, that you do too! We deserve the King of Wakanda. We deserve a king. Now we can fight over which one we get, you can take T’Challa and I can take Killmonger (he was a King for a little bit there lol) No but in all seriousness, I’m here to encourage you to start believing that you deserve better than what you’ve been getting from these lames out here. If that man isn’t pursuing you with intention, isn’t protecting your heart, not showing you the love of God or treating you according to your worth, then that man just may not be the King God has designed for you.

You have to learn to be strong enough to wait for God’s best. I believe that there is a man out there who was specifically designed just for you and you need to stay encouraged. Your King is coming! Wakanda Forever.

Alright Queens, I hope that encourages you! And as always, be sure to like, comment, subscribe and share with a friend! Together, let’s empower one another to be Queens.


“When to invest time in someone”

Hey loves!

Have you ever wondered when you should invest time and energy into someone? I know I have. A lot of people wonder this same thing because we often find ourselves feeling like we’ve wasted time on someone who wasn’t worthy of it.

Well, my advice is to have an open conversation with the person you’re dating. Ask him/her what their intentions are and where they see things going. Hear the response but most importantly, make sure you pay attention to their actions! If a person says one thing but shows you something different with their actions, you may not want to invest your time or energy.

Check out my full video response to this question on my Relationship T.E.A. segment by clicking the YouTube link below. 

And if you have any dating questions that you want advice on, feel free to just reply to this email and I’ll post a video response for you too!  ~Videllia


Hey Queens and Kings!

I’m back! For real this time lol. Wow. It has been awhile since I’ve come to you with a new blog post and it’s been for good reasons.

My entire life turned upside down. Over the past few months, I had been battling some spiritual highs and lows and it just really weighed on me. So I had to take a break to take care of my self. I am a HUGE proponent of self care and I believe wholeheartedly that self care is key to a healthy YOU. Remember, it’s okay to take some time for YOU! Sometimes we all keep running ourselves until our fuel levels are on E (empty) that we run out of gas completely! I did NOT want that to happen to me. So when I realized my fuel level turned from full to low I knew I had to take some time to regroup so that I did not run out of gas completely.

And now I’m back and better than ever and can get back to what I love –which is to empower and encourage all of you. I thank all of my followers for rocking with me and encouraging me during this season. So many of you left a comment on my IG post or sent me DM’s to encourage me and you’ll never know how much your encouraging words meant to me. I truly am thankful for each of you for being a blessing to me as I took some time off for some self-care.

So with that…let’s talk BLOG Updates because I have some new features in store for all of you!

NEW MERCHANDISE:  First things up – if you missed it, I recently launched the sale of my second shirt which was designed for all of the Single Ladies!!!! This Single Queen Statement t-shirt serves as a reminder for all of you Queens out there to wait on God’s best!!! God’s best is out there waiting and looking for you Queen, I just know it! And while you wait, I want you to be encouraged! The shirts are high quality (Next Level brand) and only $25 which includes FREE shipping. Shirts are selling fast so if you would like to order yours please complete the form below and I’ll send you an invoice.

RELATIONSHIP TEA: Back in April I realized that I have a huge following of single ladies and women in relationships so I really want to bring more focus to the relationship aspect on my site.  Therefore, I will be doing more Single Sistah Podcasts/Videos as well as providing more relationship inspiration.

First, I am introducing a new segment on my website called “Relationship TEA”. This is where I give my opinion on relationship questions that matter to YOU! All you have to do is send me your relationship questions and I’ll record a video or podcast response with some advice for you! And best of all, it will be completely anonymous! If you want to submit your first question, click here.

DATE NIGHTS WITH LADY V:  I get so many questions and comments from singles trying to figure out how to keep themselves busy while waiting on God’s best! Well I am now doing a Date Nights w/Lady V segment as well. On Fridays, I will post a tip or something that you can do to enjoy a date night with yourself or with your significant other. Head on over to my Instagram page and make sure you are following me so you don’t miss out!

UPCOMING EVENTS:  Finally – I am working on hosting my first brunch in the Dallas area! It’ll be a collaboration with another brand but I don’t want to give all the details now. Make sure you sign up to stay in the know especially if you are in the DFW area!!!! It’s gonna be LIIITTT!

Also – please vote on your favorite form/content that you like to receive from me? Do you like blog posts, podcasts or videos? Be sure to let me know in the comments.

Well that’s it for now. As you can see, I’ve been working hard on a few things for you all. Even though I’ve been absent I haven’t stopped grinding. And now that my tank is back on Full, I’m about to grind even harder!!!

Single Sistah Masterclass + FREE GIVEAWAY!

Ever asked God why are you single?


Hey Single Queens!!!

I’m super excited to introduce you all to a new feature coming to my website this month. Each month I will post a Single Sistah Podcast with motivational topics for all of my single ladies!!! To kick off this new feature, I will be hosting a FREE Masterclass for all of my single ladies and will also be giving away some incredible items.

Join me on IG live Monday, April 2nd at 8pm CST where we will talk all about single lady-ish. For 30-40 minutes, we will talk about what it means to be single in 2018 and I’ll share some practical tips with you on how to enjoy the single life. I’ll also give you a preview of some upcoming topics. Register below to receive your reminder email AND to enter for your chance at winning my:

1) My newly designed Single t-shirt for those waiting on God’s best!
2) The “Boundaries in Dating” book by John Townsend (4.5/5 stars!)

You have to register and attend the class to be entered in the drawing. If you can’t attend, come back to my website immediately after to watch the playback. Included in the playback will be instructions for you on how you can still be eligible to win if you didn’t get a chance to attend.

Good luck and share with a friend!





Hey sis – lift your head up!

Whew! I don’t know about you but it’s been a rough few weeks for me. My life has been going on a roller coaster ride for awhile now and I’m so ready to get off! Because of everything I have going on this way, I just haven’t been that inspired to blog lately. It just seems like all of my energy has been put into dealing with life’s up’s and down’s that I’m literally drained at the end of it all.

Have you ever felt like that? Like life has just gotten so challenging that you don’t know where else to turn or who else to talk to? 

Yeah I’ve been there too. And I’ve noticed that a lot of my followers are there as well. I know a lot of you are going through a lot in life right now. Many of you have either reached out to me personally or I’ve seen posted on your pages the trials and tribulations that your own roller coaster life is presenting you with. I’ve seen some of you who are in the hospital or have loved ones in the hospital fighting for their lives. I know others who have survived terrible car accidents or lost someone in a recent car accident. And still I know others of you who are fighting for your lives as you’ve reached out to me for help with an abusive relationship that you’re in. 

Life can be tough and it shows no favoritism with respect to the punches and blows it hands out. So I just wanted to share this blog with all of you – with myself – of some of my favorite quotes and scriptures that help me get through a tough time. These are helping me get through this rough season as well and have helped me to find my way back to blogging as I know that’s what God would want me to do – even in the midst of the difficulties I’m facing.

I know this is different from what I usually post but I believe it’s important that we all take a step back to make sure our mental and emotional state of being are just as healthy as other aspects of our lives. My hope is that these quotes/scriptures will give you the encouragement to lift your head up as you face the challenges life is presenting your way. You got this sis! Though it feels like this challenging season is long, be confident in knowing that troubles don’t last always and your joy will come in the morning!

Scriptures of encouragement

Galatians 6:9:  “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.”

2 Corinthians 12: 9-10: “Each time he said, My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness. So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.  That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.:

2 Corinthians 4: 8-9: “We are pressed on every side by troubles, but we are not crushed. We are perplexed, but not driven to despair.  We are hunted down, but never abandoned by God. We get knocked down, but we are not destroyed.”

Psalm 46:5a: “God is within her, she will not fall.”

Hebrews 13:5b: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”

Quotes of encouragement

“Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations.”

“The moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before a miracle/blessing happens. DON’T GIVE UP.”

“No matter how good of a woman you are, you will never be good enough for a man who isn’t ready.”

“Stay patient and trust your journey.”

“I am blessed by the BEST so I don’t worry about the rest.”

“Every storm in your life is followed by a rainbow.”

“When life gets hard, remind yourself that diamonds are made under pressure. And you, my dear, are a DIAMOND!”

Now this isn’t an all-inclusive list by any means but it is a list of some of my favorites that have really helped encourage me through tough times.

Do you have a favorite scripture or quote that you rely on to get you through? If so, drop a comment below and let me know! Together let’s encourage one another!