I Deserve the King of Wakanda

Hey loves, it’s Videllia. Your favorite relationship and motivational blogger and I’m back with another blog post called “I Deserve the King of Wakanda” and so do you.  You can listen to the podcast below or keep scrolling to read the full post.


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I love the movie Black Panther. I saw it 3 times in theaters, once on an airplane and plan to buy the DVD lol. What I loved outside of the amazing storyline, great acting and eye candy was the way T’Challa treated the women in the movie, specifically Nakia.

For those that don’t know, in the storyline Nakia can be seen pursuing her own dreams of saving people while T’challa pursues her. Not only does he pursue her but he protects her. Not only does he protect her but he wants to provide for her. Not only does he provide for her but you can see how he loves and cherishes her. How he respects and admires her dreams and her vision for the world. Not only does he cherish her but you can see he makes her aware of his intentions. He hints at her being the Queen in Wakanda and to me their love relationship was so cute.


While it is fictional of course being based on fictional characters it really got me to thinking – I deserve the King of Wakanda. I deserve a T’challa. No not in the sense of I need a man to be able to transform into some amazing super hero and kick butt all across the world but in the sense of everything he stood for.

I deserve a man who pursues me.

I deserve a man who protects me.

I deserve a man who wants to provide for me (as I want to provide for him).

I deserve a man who loves and cherishes me, who respects and admires me and my dreams. Who will support me in my dreams and figure out ways to help me pursue those things just as T’Challa supported Nakia.

I deserve a man who makes his intentions known – who let’s me know that I’m the one he wants and the one he wants to be with.

And sis, I’m here to tell you, that you do too! We deserve the King of Wakanda. We deserve a king. Now we can fight over which one we get, you can take T’Challa and I can take Killmonger (he was a King for a little bit there lol) No but in all seriousness, I’m here to encourage you to start believing that you deserve better than what you’ve been getting from these lames out here. If that man isn’t pursuing you with intention, isn’t protecting your heart, not showing you the love of God or treating you according to your worth, then that man just may not be the King God has designed for you.

You have to learn to be strong enough to wait for God’s best. I believe that there is a man out there who was specifically designed just for you and you need to stay encouraged. Your King is coming! Wakanda Forever.

Alright Queens, I hope that encourages you! And as always, be sure to like, comment, subscribe and share with a friend! Together, let’s empower one another to be Queens.


Day 24: I Am a One in a Million Kind of Gal (Guy)

Key Reminder #4: “Know your worth, then add tax!” ~Everyone

The most important thing to remember is to know your worth…then add tax! You are a one in a million kind of person. There is NO ONE else like you here on Earth. No one. You were uniquely created to be the man or woman that God has called you to be. He created you wonderfully, masterfully, worthy, in only a manner that he can. He has set you apart because you are a precious gem, valuable beyond measure and worth more than many sparrows and rubies. Even though you may go through life feeling like your flaws define you, you should lift your ahead and learn to be comfortable in your perfect imperfections, flaws and all. That is the true essence of beauty.

You are one of a kind! Rare. Precious. In fact, it’s like you are a hidden treasure. Someone has to seek to find you because there is nothing and no one else like you on this planet. That makes me excited. Aren’t you? To know that I am so rare and precious that a man has to seek God in order to find me lets me know how worthy I truly am. That’s why I no longer allow myself to be treated as anything less than TREASURE and you shouldn’t either. No matter what comes your way in life, always know who you are, WHOSE you are and know your worth!


#KnowYourWorthChallenge: On Day 2 of the series, I asked you all to write down your responses to the questions: What does God say I’m worth, what is my worth in relationships and what is my worth in general. I want you to go back and re-read those responses. Now that you’ve completed the series, are your responses still the same? What have you learned from the series that has caused you to change your responses now? Comment below.

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Day 23: I Am A Queen

Key Reminder #3: “There is a reason why the queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard.” ~Everyone

Today’s #KnowYourWorth summary is especially for the ladies!!! Being a woman myself, I understand how easy it is for us to question our value and self-worth. How easy it is for us to be swayed (sometimes) by the comments from a man that we love and who claims to love us. How easy it is not to want to stand up for ourselves and to get walked on by those around us. But the one thing we have to remember is regardless, we are STILL queens! And there’s a reason why the Queen is the most powerful piece on the chessboard.

No one but women will understand what it means to truly be a woman. The emotional pains that we go through, the physical pains (oh how I wish Mother Nature would take a vacation for one month, just one month! Lol), the smiling big even when we are crying within. The feeling that we need to appear stronger, tougher, less vulnerable and to protect ourselves so that no one uses our vulnerability against us. But you my dear are not only valuable and worthy…you are POWERFUL. Powerful beyond measure! So stop allowing others to cause you to doubt yourself. Yes, you are worthy of marriage. Yes, you are worthy of that promotion. Yes, you are worthy of that job. Yes, you are worthy of achieving your goals. And yes, you CAN do it!


#KnowYourWorthChallenge: Si se puede! (Yes I Can!) And yes, YOU can too! In what ways are you going to challenge your naysayers (i.e. the haters) and encourage yourself to push past the negativity and accomplish the things that you want to do in life? Comment below.

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Day 22: I Am A Pink Starburst

Key Reminder #2: “Never let anyone treat you like a yellow starburst. You, my dear, are a pink starburst.” ~Author Unknown

I LOVES me some pink Starbursts. Like. Best. Invention. Ever. I was even happier when they finally came out with an all pink and red package of Starbursts. I never had to suffer through another yellow or orange starburst again. I remember growing up (and even now), I would sort through the package and pull out only the pinks and reds and discard the yellows and oranges.

I laugh as I reminisce on that because I see how valuable the pink (and red) Starbursts were to me. So when I came across this quote on the internet, I thought it was very fitting as one of the summary topics for this series. You my dear are a pink starburst. All throughout the series, I have encouraged you to realize your worth for yourself and to be confident in it. So as you continue onward with your journey’s, don’t allow anyone or anything to discard you like you are a worthless individual. Whether that’s a beau, friend, foe, job, family member, etc. you should never be treated as anything less than the valuable woman or man that you are. Remember, if you find yourself in a situation where you are being treated as less than your true value, then you should reevaluate that situation and make changes as necessary. Maybe you’re worthy of it but it’s not worthy of you!!!

And if it’s not necessarily a situation that makes you feel devalued but is instead a your own views toward yourself then look yourself in the mirror and say positive affirmations daily until you start to believe that you are worth all that life has to offer and so much more. In either case, know that you are a pink starburst and you should always be treated as such!


#KnowYourWorthChallenge: How will you use what you have learned/are learning from the KnowYourWorth Series in your life? Let me know below!

Copyright © 2017 Videllia Davis. All Rights Reserved.

Day 20: Let’s Recap #2


Hey loves, Videllia here again with our second recap!  How are you enjoying the series so far? I hope that it’s providing you with some tools and hope that you can use to continue on your journey of self-worth.  We’ve talked about what does God say we’re worth and our worth when it comes to relationships and now I want to end the series by giving your four key reminders to reiterate some of the things that we’ve discussed already in this series and hopefully help you on your journey of self-worth. If you don’t take away anything else from this series, I hope that you can use these reminders as a summarized version of what it means to know your worth AND to be confident in it.  These last few posts will be short and sweet and maybe even a little repetitive from some of the things that I’ve discussed previously.  But like I’ve mentioned before, repetition is a very powerful tool when it comes to committing something to memory.  And since I want you to know that you are a sexy, amazing and WORTHY individual, I’ll say it until I’m blue in the face, shout it from every mountain top…okay, okay, you get the picture lol.  Tune back in tomorrow as we summarize the entire series in a few short posts.


#KnowYourWorthChallenge:  Comment below what’s been your favorite post from the series.

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