“God has a way of reminding us that what we think is an ugly imperfection about ourselves, he intended to be beautiful.” ~Videllia Davis (that’s me lol)
Have you ever seen the movie Shrek? It’s marketed towards a child audience (though I don’t know why lol) but really, all of the subtle innuendos in there are only things that an adult would understand. I know because now that I watch the movie at 28, I see it so differently than I did when it first came out 14 years ago.
So I was watching the movie a while ago and there’s a part in the movie where the other
princesses tell Fiona that she may start to let herself go and the gingerbread man chimes in and screams, stretch marks! It cracks me up everytime. Except this time, it made me think differently.
Too often do we look at ourselves in the mirror and find something that we dislike about ourselves. For some, it may be stretch marks. For others, it may be the size of your nose or the lack of fullness in your lips. For others, it may be the lack of a derrière (that’s a donk for those that don’t know lol) or big boobs. Still, for others, it may be the length and texture of your hair, the melanin (or lack thereof) in your skin, the blemishes on your face, and so forth.
The list goes on. For me, I struggled growing up accepting the size of my lips. I was a little-skinny Olive Oil of a kid with humongous lips (if you haven’t been able to tell already from the pics of my site lol I’m including a silly pic here just so that you can see – they are HUGE!). That insecurity caused me to shy away from wanting to take pictures. I felt I needed to hide myself because I was that big-eyed, bubble lip child that so often got picked on (kids are so cruel at times!). However, when I entered high school and ultimately college, I learned to not place so much power in my insecurity. My college roommate’s mom always told me that she wished she had such full lips. Further, my lips became one of my most attractive qualities to a man (now granted some of them were only attracted to them because of their own inappropriate sexual thoughts but still lol – God has a way of reminding us that what we think is an ugly imperfection about ourselves, he intended to be beautiful – whoa! I just shouted – thank you Jesus for that revelation) Fact of the matter is, I did (and do) naturally have big full lips. So I could either shy away from it or straight own it! I’ve chosen the latter.
And I’ve chosen to do that in other areas of my body too. I went natural 2 years ago and yes I will be the first to say that this natural texture can be rough at times (geesh!), but I walk around still feeling flyy because it is still apart of me.
Even more I used to be shy about wearing bikinis. I have a few tiny stretch marks on my thighs (yep just put all my business out there lol). Although they are tiny and often unnoticeable, I knew they were there. But then I woke up one day and realized that I couldn’t change them! So I could continue to shy away from showing them or just live my life and not care…again I chose the latter. (And for any lady out there struggling with accepting this part of her body let me assure you that a man is not bothered by a stretch mark, hunty let me tell you! 😉😘)
I know I’m writing this to you and making it sound like it’s such a simple thing to do – you know accepting yourself? However, I will be the first to admit that accepting what you think is a flaw about yourself is not always easy but you CAN do it.
Whenever I struggle with my own insecurities, I read these two verses over and over again:
“I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made, your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” ~Psalm 139:14
“My darling, everything about you is perfect and even your flaws are beautiful to me” ~Song of Solomon 4:7
I just kept saying it until I actually believed it. I even wrote the scriptures down on a piece of paper and posted them in my room where I could wake up and see them everyday.
Then one day I didn’t have to read them. why? Because I was finally living them. I was finally living like a woman who knew her worth in Jesus surpassed any flaws or insecurities she thought she had.
What areas of insecurity are you struggling with today? Remind yourself of WHOSE you are and encourage yourself out of your insecurity and into self-confidence!!!
I’m praying for you my sister…